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Occasional ramblings by an anesthesiologist/mother (and sometimes her husband).

Tuesday, January 30, 2007

Now THAT'S a Parking Sign

Sign in the parking lot of Waterfront Elementary - Buffalo Public School #95

Updated 8/16/07 to correct image links.

Monday, January 22, 2007


I got some sad news this weekend. The Diocese of Buffalo announced that the grade school I went to is closing. Peter and I are still members of the parish even though we moved out of the "official" boundaries. Part of the reason we stayed (besides the fact it's the only church I've ever gone to) was that I always had the plan of sending my kids there someday. Intellectually, I understand the reasoning behind the closing, but it still hurts.

One of the reasons why this bothers me is that I know that the school closing is the death knell of the parish. I was Baptized there, made my First Reconciliation, First Communion and Confirmation there. That is the church where Peter converted. I sang in the youth choir, the folk group, and the adult choir. I was married there. I planned on baptizing my kids there. Things had been different there in the last few months, since we had a change in leadership (were had been taken over by the Oblates of Mary Immaculate years ago, but they had to leave to take over another church) and the new Pastor was, not entirely well liked. And he had no interest in the school and talked about closing it from the moment he arrived. The paranoid part of me wonders if he was sent there to make people leave, because they have been since he arrived.

We had even started thinking about going somewhere else. Maybe that's why I'm so upset, I'm just guilty about thinking about leaving. This sealed the deal for us. We're officially looking for a new parish. There are a few near us and we're going to be checking them out over the next few weeks. If anyone has any suggestions, leave a comment.

Monday, January 15, 2007


I found myself saying "I need to blog about this" too many times today to do separate posts. So here's a mixed bag of links.

First: To all those who think Title IX is the greatest thing since sliced bread. Read this article. I also recommend Jessica Gavora's wonderful book on the subject.

Second: Today, a 20 year manhunt ended in an arrest. To those of you who moved out of the area - They think they count the Bike Path Rapist. See articles here and here .

Third: Back in December a moron out on Juvenile probation was engaged in criminal activity. He was caught by two police officers. Because he was no longer a juvenile and was "afraid" of going to jail this genius shot both cops. One suffered relatively minor injuries. The other, a female, was shot in the chin and the bullet hit her spine. She has been making progress (she can move her shoulder muscles a little) and is being transferred to a rehab center. The Buffalo News had an article about her here .

Sunday, January 14, 2007

A Quiet Evening In

So I discovered much to my delight, that I was indeed off on Martin Luther King, Jr day. Hooray!!!!! So we decided that we would cocoon ourselves in the house for a few days of "us" time. Right now we're in day two and currently flipping between NFL playoffs and Food Network. Yesterday was day one.

We slept in, caught up on 2 weeks of taped tv shows and watched a ton of TLC. I suggested we have a romantic night in. He made linguini with white clam sauce, I made pecan pie, we opened up a nice bottle of white wine and I lit all the candles in our living room and we turned off the lights. And we watched

the Sabres' game of course.

Saturday, January 13, 2007

At it again

Once again, the dirtbags at MADD show their true colors.

As long as you support them, drunk driving's okay!

The only thing more pathetic would be having Ted Kennedy on their Board of Directors.

Sunday, January 07, 2007

You say it's your Birthday.

Happy Birthday KLT .

Thursday, January 04, 2007

The "Ashley Treatment"

Some of the sites I visit on the internet ( Drudge , Fox News , etc) have been buzzing about the case of Ashley X. It was originally told as a case report in October in the Archives of Pediatrics & Adolescent Medicine by the two Seattle doctors who designed the treatment plan. In news articles since then, their story has been presented.

In an effort to clear up "misconceptions" about what they had done, her parents set up a website . In it the discuss their decision in great detail, providing reasons as to why the chose to do what they did. They also include pictures of Ashley, in their home.

What I found most interesting were many of the comments they published. They included many positive comments from an MSNBC message board in support of their decision. And, in what I consider a bold move, they allowed people to post comments on their own site, with no obvious censorship of negative comments. Some of the commenters call them selfish, liken what was done to Nazi experiments, some call them mutilators.

For those who do not know the story I will provide a brief summary: Ashley was born a full term healthy baby but she never progressed mentally or in her motor skills. She was diagnosed with being in a static encephalopathic state. She cannot talk, hold her head up, move/roll without assistance, hold a toy, or eat without the assistance of a feeding tube. Although she appears aware of her environment and startles easily, her parents are unsure if she even recognizes them. In 2004, when she began to show signs of early puberty, they met with her doctors and developed a treatment plan that included: a hysterectomy (removal of the uterus), appendectomy, removal of her breast buds (which would prevent development), and estrogen to stunt her growth.

When I first read these articles my initial reaction was horror. To do this to a six year old seemed cruel and bordered on child abuse. It amounted to forced sterilization (at least that's what my initial reaction was). Not content with reading a few articles about it (especially since I have a healthy distrust of the media) and feeling that those articles seemed one-sided I read what her parents wrote about it.

Usually buried in the articles was that the procedure went before the ethics committee which approved the decision. Also never mentioned were the reasons the parents made some of these decisions.

The hysterectomy was indeed to prevent menstruation and the pain from cramps. Many people claim this is forced sterilization and eugenics. However, I agree with the ethics committee's assertion that given her illness, she would be unable to voluntarily reproduce, so this did not amount to forced sterilization. If she has no motor skills, the mental state of an infant, she would be unable to consent. Laws preventing forced sterilization, were meant to prevent mildly disabled women who may wish to have children not be sterilized against their will. It does not apply in this case. The concern (according to the parents) was primarily what to do with menstruation. Looking into the comments, there are many references to children with similar illnessess and the trauma their period causes them. On parent talked about how her daughter thinks that she is dying each month, another mentions her daughter "playing" with her menstrual bleeding. I still have doubts that this was a necessary procedure, but I think her parents intentions were good.

Removal of the breast buds was intended to prevent breast development. According to their website there were several factors in their decision. The first was that large breasts (on relative had a reduction at age 19) on both sides of the family, a family history of fibrocystic breast disease (which can be painful) and a family history of breast cancer. She was already showing signs of sensitivity and pain in her breasts. In addition, her parents felt that breasts could impose an impediment to strapping her into wheelchairs/strollers for transport. They also were concerned about making her a target for abuse by caregivers. Reading their comments section, this does not seem to be a wholly unfounded concern. I can't say that I disagree with their thinking.

As far as the appendectomy, the thought was that it would be better to take it out while the hysterectomy would be performed. Ashley would be unable to indicate any symptoms of pain should she develop appendicitis and it would put her at higher risk of undetected rupture.

They also did decide to stunt her growth. At this time she is approx 65#. This is nearly the limit of what her parents can physically lift. Additionally it was felt by the doctors that smaller size would limit her risk of pressure ulcers, pneumonia, and bladder infections.

My take on this "treatment" is that her parents had her best interests in mind. They did not make this decision lightly and they did what they thought best for their daughter. It is clear that they love their "Pillow Angel" and they should not be vilified for making such a decision. Having said that, this situation is an extreme case. This treatment cannot and should not be used to justify doing similar procedures on disabled children. I'm not fully convinced this was the right thing to do in this case (much less in any other situation). I also think that there is no right answer in this situation. I may not have made this decision if this was my child, but her parents did and they did it with much thought. I cannot fault them for doing what they felt was right, nor should they be vilified.

That's my two cents on this. Any thought of your own?